A 9-yr Old is Making Our Decisions for Us

It is true! We are all being directed by a 9 year old. We think that we are in control of what we do, but that isn't necessarily accurate. All our actions begin with us making a decision, right? A "decision" is the resulting thought one has after they selected which choice they wish to pursue. Decisions are thoughts that we intend to take action towards. All of our thoughts stem from our subconscious mind. Some decisions make it to our conscious mind, and others skip our conscious mind and push right through for us to take action. Those thoughts are not acknowledged by us because they on autopilot, meaning we are doing something but aren't really even aware of it. These autopilots include things such as moving our body or running the functional things our body needs to keep going, like breathing and pumping blood. We don't consciously slow down to acknowledge that we are blinking, or scratching an itch, or walking. Those autopilot actions also include things like our automatic responses to questions as simple as 'can I ask for a favor', and whether you feel obligated to always say yes. Or the response to get angry over things that others wouldn't. Once we decide that the action chosen is the best possible action to take in that situation for the first time the subconscious mind will turn it into an autopilot response the next time something similar happens. It just kind of pushes it through without allowing time to for the conscious mind to acknowledge it is happening. Then every time that situation happens in the future, the subconscious mind jumps in and says "We did "this action" last time we encountered the same or a similar situation, therefore we believe that we already know the best solution for it, so let's do it again. So, I'm sure you are still wondering how does this all tie back to a 9 year old making these decisions for us. Well, 95% of our decisions skip through the conscious mind analyzing it. Also, 85% of your beliefs are established by the time you are 9 years old. If decisions are based on a belief, then that means 85% of the time we are subconsciously making decisions they are based on the beliefs we had at 9 year old. On top of this, a large majority of the beliefs we have at 9 years old are not even beliefs that we established on our own. They are the beliefs our peers, parents and teachers pushed upon us and we believed it because we didn't have any contradicting information at the time to challenge it. Isn't that a little scary to know that we are being driven based on what we thought when we were 9 years old? That's why these limiting beliefs are so important to get rid of. We need to replace them with what we believe now about ourselves and others, versus at 9 years. What is also crazy, is that our conscious mind isn't even aware that we have that belief in the first place because our subconscious is just pushing it through. Luckily for us, we are now learning about limiting beliefs and how bad they are for us. Once a belief is established, it is very difficult to change that belief. Affirmations are really the best thing we can use to override these limiting beliefs. The only other way to change limiting beliefs are by having an extremely strong emotional response to something that contradicts the original belief. Creating your own strong emotional events are extremely difficult. Affirmations work the brain kind of like exercising does on our muscles. With repetition we eventually build up the strength in the brain to overrule the old stale beliefs we had and thus decisions we are making with ones that better suit us. I hope this information drives us to try to stop letting our 9 year old selves run our life… I know it certainly has motivated me.