7 Tips To Help You Become the Best Parent

Being a parent doesn’t have to be hard. If you are consistent with the following techniques you should start to experience less tantrums and tears.

Talk to, not at

A child should deserve exactly the same respect you would give an adult. Try to engage with them when communicating, instead of just giving commands. Then the child will feel less intimidated or attacked and will naturally give you the same respect back. Imagine if someone was constantly just telling you want to do all day, it would get pretty annoying, right?

Mean what you say

False threats and promises is the same thing as lying. If you want you child to believe you, start telling them the truth. They will be less inclined to lie to you as well, when following your lead. If it’s a punishment you’re going to have to follow through, do so with a simple ‘matter of fact’ attitude. Explain this is what I said so now it’s going to happen. Keep anger out of the situation, it’s already bad enough there will be a punishment. Instead be compassionate about whatever it is they had taken away.

Don’t Ignore

Being ignored is an awful feeling. It makes you feel unimportant, unloved, sad, confused and many other negative things. If we feel those emotions as an adult, imagine how much more intense those feelings are for a child. Why would you want to make anyone feel like that. Usually, whatever it is they need just takes a few seconds to handle. If you can’t handle it right then and there then take the few seconds to acknowledge the request and let them know when you can do it. That takes the anxiety off their shoulders.

Teach Instead of Punish

Every time you would typically yell, instead try to view it as an opportunity. Teach them why you don’t want them doing something or why you are unhappy. When applicable, change your anger to concern, concern for their safety or happiness. Hug them and tell them your glad they are ok. Use a softer voice instead of a louder voice. They will be more likely to actually absorb what you are saying, instead of being overwhelmed and scared by anger or aggression.

Validate & Educate Emotions

Whether the child is sad, mad, tired, happy, confused, etc., help them know that emotion is expected and is ok. Look at it as an opportunity to teach them what each emotion means and does for us. It’s ok if they are sad because they lost a toy, or mad because something was taken away from them. You validating that their feelings are normal will actually help soothe them. If they are mad, give them a hug and share with them a time you felt the same way, just like you would with a friend.

Help Your Child Love Himself

Too many adults don’t love themselves because they weren’t taught how. You have an opportunity to give your child a beautiful gift that will help them for the rest of their lives. Teach them to say kind words to themselves, and to cherish and love themselves. Give them confidence without conceit. Being able to truly love yourself helps with every decision that needs to be made. That is because you will think about whether that decision is in your best interest. They will choose the right kind of relationships, as they won’t have tolerance for people who put them down. They won’t beat themselves up for failing but have the confidence to try again or accept the results.

Smother Them With Love

I’m sure you’ve heard this before, “You can’t spoil a baby.” They mean, it’s never bad to smother a baby with affection and hold them. Well when it comes to love, the same applies to children. Make sure that your child knows you love them. Give them an abundance of affection. Touching, hugging and kissing make everyone feel good. It doesn’t have to be bed time to give them love. The security that your love gives them helps them face the rest of the world with more confidence. If you constantly show them how important they are to you, they will in return cherish you more.

Keeping these tips in mind will make the home a happier place to be. Remember, the whole world is so new to a child. Their senses are new, their emotions are new, everything is new. So that requires parents to have a lot of patience and become an active listener to what the child is actually communicating. Children understand and know a lot more than you think they do. Whether you realize it or not, they are always watching your every move, and they hear all the things you don’t think they pay attention to. They are your biggest fan, with the right approach they will do anything to make you happy.

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